Beauty Standard

It’s a low-key embarrassing tho when society give attractive people more attention basically on their looks and physical appeal. Another thing that saddens me is, most women don’t think they are beautiful or by any chance, they don’t feel confident in their own beauty. I don’t know how many percentages of men think the same way, but I guess it’s a common sense for everybody since the concept of good looking still remain in ones’ heads.

However, there’s a different reflection on how men and women address on their body. Men; including me; generally give less f*cks on their physical appearance. Even if they are fat or look like a homeless person, men are trying to get things done quickly.

On the other hand, women have become conditioned to believing in the unrealistic standards of beauty set by society, of course some don’t. It goes like applying skincare, grooming your brow, curling hair, hydrating your lips, moisturizing, dressing nicely, and so on; women are convincing that they will need more than physical attraction to be attracted. That’s what the society has made us believe in, that’s what we are told. And ironically, most of us believe all this.

I agree on the point that you have to take care of your body, skin tones, facial features; but that doesn’t mean you MUST activate body plastic surgery just so you could think you look prettier. The case excepted on who have conditions like birth disorders, injuries, illnesses, or burns. It’s different between to look pretty and to feel comfortable on your body. Just think how many industries would go out of business if tomorrow women woke up and decided they really like their bodies. Just live ladies, it will pass. You don’t have to be drop dead gorgeous to get noticed.

Beauty has no standard. See yourself in the mirror, see all of it, look at all your greatness, accept it, and love it. Real beauty comes from within- the most beautiful people in the world are those who have a good heart.

Talk To Kids

Once again, I’m not an expertise. This is just my point of view and I don’t think my writing would ever deliver message to anybody. But for God’s sake, I really want to write.

So, the topic today is about kids. Why kids? Because why not!?

Well, I ain’t got no kid but I used to be a kid or; forever; I am. I just don’t know. But for my whole life, I see most kids and grown up teenagers don’t actually have deep enough conversations with their parents. Somehow, they prefer to keep their problems inside or would discuss it with somebody rather then their parents.

The problem is we don’t engage our children as much and they don’t articulate themselves very much. Try to listen to what they want to tell you and learn to interact so they would open up more. Kids won’t necessarily open up conversation on their own, we have to teach them to the point where they want to come and tell you what happens. For example, the child himself come and said, “I saw a dream.” You don’t even ask, “Do you see a dream?” That’s the kind of communication we want to facilitate with our kids.

A lot of times our children speak to us, and we give them one-word answers, supposed when they go, “Mom, what’s this? or Dad, look at this?” Then we’d just like, “Hmm… Okay.” It is no real conversation. And that’s the reason grown up teenagers rarely share things to their parents because they’ve experienced when they were kid that it’s no used. If you don’t listen to their silly words now, they won’t tell you big troubles later.

Beside, don’t talk to them like they’re babies. My relatives always have an attitude of making sounds as in cartoons because they think kids like it. Usually, they lie to them like all kids are foolish, some even bullied them as joke. And that’s how kids think it is normal to speak that way. Why don’t we learn to talk to them like they’re intelligent? Even if they’re just 5 years old, even if they don’t know how to respond. Just pretend, that’s how kids learn to behave when they speak.

Kids are just like white paper, they are easily manipulated. When you listen when they talk, they would listen when you talk. Talk to your kids in a professional way, speak to them intelligently. And you’d be surprised how quickly they learn to communicate intelligently.

Is Reading Really Important As You Thought?

I once worked in a bookstore which is in a city where there are lots of tourists since it is among the famous tourism site. From time to time, I see bookworms spent money on books more than they have spent on clothes.

Tell you the truth, it is far different between a feeling as a staff and customers. As consumer, I always consider if I like that stuff before I buy it; on the other hand; a seasonal employee as me give zero f*cks whether you like it or not. We care when you buy so we could reach our selling target. By the way, I really appreciate how marketing advertisement encourage people to read but somehow I feel strange for the fact that is it useful to read or is it just business?

Always ask myself why do I read? Am I falling in the trap?

Speaking of which, spending money for my own happiness is my life’s motto. Therefore, I’m trying to be optimistic and find some good reasons so I don’t feel bad about it.

  1. I read because I have an obsession with quotes because other people are so much better at putting my feelings into words than I am. I’m not good at expressing how I feel, I can’t find the right word for that.
  2. I read for inspirations. I lost sometimes. Thanks to the authors; the ink is not just ink, it is knowledge, experiences, blood, hard works, scarified. and/or deep thinking are combined. Beside basic needs, people need encouragement and motivation to keep them alive too.
  3. Above all, I read to escape from the real world. I create a fantasy world in my mind and I live in my own imagination, I can tell it is wonderful right here.

For the sake of God, I still read and I still recommend my people to read. I’ve no longer care how much money I waste on books, because it is not wasted actually. It buried my soul and I feel good.

Someone I Can Trust

Recently, I have finished reading a book of young-adult fiction, which is about a wallflower who wants to learn about untold truth that school didn’t teach, a bit nasty but the story was well-written. It also had a film I could spend just two hours watching but I decided to read, told you it took me more than a month.

Currently, I’m reading another book related to science-fiction which is talking about hair-raising investigation of a young boy when his friend went missing. I haven’t finished it all but it was interesting. I hope I could end this book quicker because there were two more books in my list when I visited bookstore a past week.

I don’t know if people enjoy reading over movie but the place I live, most teenagers don’t focus much about reading, neither does the study. Many of them have so much time enjoying outside, party, spend half a day on social media; which can be called a rich kid lifestyle. I can’t imagine their future, I have no power over that too, but Jesus, this generation is weird to me. I find it hard sometimes reading at the park or in a coffee shop, like you’re the black sheep and everyone is watching. I’m not afraid to be different but those creepy eyes feel like zombie’s striving for blood.

I bring book with me most of the times even though I knew I don’t have time to read but book is a friend of mine. I feel safe, at least I know there is someone next to me I can trust. It was books that made me feel perhaps I was not completely alone. They could be honest with me, and I with them.

New Game In This Holy Generation

Some idiots are too free and even create a fun game for idiots to play online.

This is what I found funny on the internet, people write five pages debating. Man, I don’t understand but I give zero f*ck.. What’s more annoying than the debate itself is the fact that people think their opinions matter on the freaking internet. Think about what you could have done in that hours you spent writing paragraphs complaining on useless sh*t.

Come on! Get a life. You’re so discontent with yourself that you’re arguing with people you’ve never seen before. How come those strangers have power to ruin your day? And will you get a Ballon D’or after winning that argument?

Nah, I’m blaming myself because I have nothing to do. While treating myself a hot no-sweet chocolate, I write random article so you could read and waste a few minutes.

I appreciate you read this. By the way, NEVER argue with strangers through online media. Stay safe, stay away from idiots.

Life Is Weird When It Went Too Well

I am awfully sorry for not giving a damn checking up on my blog in this last two months. Nothing struggling my life much so far. I’m a bit busier recently, that’s why.

I like sharing ideas just like the other bloggers; but the more general, the more I’m not interested. Therefore, I choose to write for the broken, the failure, because there is nothing I can do. I hope my writing could cheer them up, but once again, I’m sorry for not updating new post for long.

I understand what it’s like to live and deal with the pressures of reality. That’s not easy. One thing I did is possibly fake fun to f*ck around and create a fantasy world in my mind in order to distract myself from that sh*t. I know you can do better.

As time goes by; as the image of myself becomes sharper in my brain, I feel less afraid. I don’t know if my life went too well or I’m used to it. At least I could be honest with myself that I won’t let the demons control me.

For peace; I delete, I block, I disown, I ignore, I leave. All *ssholes go f*cked off. Thanks!

7 Practices to Become the Better Version of Yourself

Before you read my tips, keep in mind that it’s not gonna work for everybody; the same goes for writers who wrote about billionaires but can’t never become ones. Hehe, can’t help for being an honest person; so follow for what is right for you.

  1. Exercise. You don’t have to be a bodybuilder, but you can look and feel better than you ever have by working out just 15mn/day and if possible, cutting down some junk foods.
  2. Learn daily. Read and think. Educate yourself. It might be a mere temporary distraction but it gives our brains something to think about other than our daily worries.
  3. Don’t try to control everything, because you can’t. The only thing you can control is how you react to things. Choose wisely what you give your power to.
  4. Ignore bullsh*t. Remember your mind is a magnet. If you think of blessings, you attract blessings; and if you think of problems, you attract problems. Simple as that.
  5. Start building your future. Start unknown, do it broke, do it scared, just do it. If they don’t help you grow, grow alone. No effort is ever a waste of time. If it didn’t bring you what you want, it taught you what you don’t want.
  6. Don’t be hesitate at making the right choice. If it isn’t a clear yes, then it’s a clear no.
  7. Help others, but never downplayed yourself to please them. The givers sleep better. A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles.

I’ll always try to say honest things in the nicest way possible. I pray all of my b*tches succeed.

What Will I Become When I Turn 30s?

Most people want to be successful in the young age so they could enjoy their life after getting what they want. Nowadays, I see many young people in their 20s worried about their future that they couldn’t achieve what they want when they turn 30s. Most of them start to feel anxiety, anhendonia, and lead to depression.

30? I don’t think age matters. Everyone has different cycle. I know people who bought their first car in their 50s and they are happy. I know people who are married in their 20s and break up a while after. I know couples who had no children, no car, no house, and still; they are happy. However, it is always better to become secure in early age but it is not a better idea to stress yourselves with those pressure. A better way is to learn how to respond to that situation, be flexible, and make proper adjustment to the plan.

Hope but never expect. Sometimes, we might feel like we haven’t put enough effort yet while we actually are thinking too much and focusing too close on just getting it done. Slow down, step back, take a deep breath, pay attention to the overall view of what we are doing. Remember it’s okay to start again and it’s never too late.

Modify the question from ”What will I become when I turn 30s?” to ”Who do I want to become when I turn 30s?” Let make a strong commitment but don’t stress it out. Work hard and work smart; play smart and spend wisely. From birth to death is the time to explore; to give a try and never afraid to fail; stay determined; be brave; live.

One day you’ll leave this world behind, so live a life you will remember.

Lost In Imagination

First of all, I’m not sure if this title fits my writing. What you must do is to not give a f*ck! Sorry, by the way.

The I must do is to apologize for not sharing anything here for a long time. I don’t know whether my post is put in a waiting section, I could barely type properly.

I need some more time for myself. I went looking for something better I guess, unsure of where to but I was and I am trying and I hope you understand.

I got a sad story too…but that don’t stop me from handling my damn business. A messed up soul trapped inside my body full of prays upon the sky. Those remind me to keep going, I evidently won some of my battles in life.

I am overwhelmed!

Thanks everyone for being here. It means a lot.

A Morning Motivation

I remembered one book I’ve read, mentioned about a girl who is excited for her school trip the next day since it was the very first school trip of the season. Therefore, she prepared things she must bring along for camping somewhere far out of town; and that night, she can’t sleep. Her mind is full of imaginable activities which is yet to come. And she woke up early in the morning enjoyed her trip as thoughts.

Back to us, do you have anything that motivate you to get up in the morning? Night-owls might be lazy to get up in the morning, but you know, the sun would never rise at night. And some people who is obsessed with the morning sun always want to see that.

Anyway, if morning coffee makes you excited, we’re on the same page. Coffee is my reason to wake up. I sometimes get excited at night thinking of coffee I will get to drink in the morning, even though it is just a regular thing I do, I’m still excited about it. Its warmth, its smelt, and a color of dark black; man, a deadly combination. It’s perfect to me.

I know some days you feel tired or probably lost. What you need is just a simple nap, lay on bed, eyes closed. On those days, I hope you always remember that everything’s going to be fine. Just breathe. That’s just another day, it’s not always going to be like that.

Give yourself some space but never upset your mind. That sh*t is just sh*t, and it’s simple because you are strong. Find a reason to wake up in the morning, do your task, and live through it.